Online Dating Tips: Creating A Perfect Profile and Other Adult Personals

If you search for online dating tips on any dating sites or adult personals, the very first thing they will tell you is to create a perfect profile. In the online dating world, it is considered as your resume; your flyer or business card; and your perfect “elevator pitch”. It is where you highlight your best traits, talents and everything you can offer. You need to showcase yourself the way you want other people to perceive you.
Since we’re referring to your profile as your business card, your profile picture is your logo. All in all, it’s your personal branding. You will be judged according to what is written on your profile. Only then will they decide if you’re a potential match. Each of these online dating tips is interconnected. All points should be covered.

1. Write an honest profile.

You need to be upfront about your specifics: your full name, your age and other important stuff. Answer questions (if any), as honestly as you can. Don’t exaggerate. Remember the truth will eventually come out when you decide to take it to the next level. Always keep in mind the golden rule. If you don’t want to be fooled, then don’t try to fool other people by lying about yourself. Don’t keep their hopes up just to get attention. It will surely backfire and hit you in the face before you even realize it.
Guys, don’t say you’re 6’3’’ when you’re just 5’7”. Girls, don’t say you have vital stats of a Victoria’s Secret model, when you look completely normal and real. This has nothing to do with body shaming. When I said normal and real, I meant normal looking people completely devoid of any editing. You need to advertise yourself and brand yourself in a positive way, but not as what you think is socially acceptable. You have to be real to find someone real too. What you reap is what you sow. Besides, why do you have to lie about your weight or your height? People will figure it out. Do you know how easy it is to investigate or stalk someone today? Just don’t lie about the physical. You can omit some details of your personal life; it’s up to you. It’s your prerogative not to disclose any information you think is irrelevant.


Let’s say you overemphasized your job by mentioning your net worth – which is totally unnecessary by the way, you will attract the wrong set of individuals. Even if what you were saying is true, you can reserve that information later. Think about safety.
Write an honest profile, but not your whole biography. Just answer the basics and be specific. You still want to keep some mystery, right? Keep the too personal and deep stuff for later, so you have something to talk about.

2. Highlight your best traits and skills

As we have mentioned above, it’s like your resume. If you are looking for a “quality” mate, then you should provide them a vision of what they are missing out on. When I said “quality”, I meant, those who are looking for something long term. You’re in a dating pool of very diverse types of individuals that probably have the same goals as you. Set yourself apart by highlighting your assets without sounding like you’re bragging.

3. State what you are looking for

Those who respond to adult personals, usually have a specific “target” in mind. No, I’m not talking about demographics. I’m talking about your personal type. The type of person you would want to meet and get to know. Be clear and concise about what you’re looking for. This will help filter your selection. People won’t bother wasting your time once they see you’re not on the same page as them. That is a good thing. Unless, of course, if you’re only looking for short term or something casual. It’s actually up to you. Whatever type of person and the kind of relationship you’re looking for, there is always someone out there who is probably looking for the same thing. If it’s clearly stated on your profile, it will be beneficial for you and your future matches.


4. Let’s talk about pictures

Pictures paint a thousand words. Yes, that song lyric is true. Your photos send out messages of what you are and what you are looking for. First impressions matter in the online dating world. Posts photos of yourself that you think would make a good impression of you. According to research, there is a higher chance of success for people who show different sides of their lives. Post one in your corporate attire, if you’re working in the corporate world. Post photos of anything that you’re into. If you love to travel, post some photos of you in different parts of the world. If you love your dogs, post a selfie with them. Recent findings show that guys with their dogs usually have a higher rate of getting attention from girls. You should leave the sexy and provocative photos at the end of the album. That way, if you have something to flaunt, people would know it’s not the only thing you are proud of.


5. Language

Let’s face the fact that in this day and age, people have become judgmental. You are judged by how you dress, speak and write. Since you don’t know the people you are interacting with on a personal level, make sure you write your profile in a way that can be easily understood. No derogatory words or slang that could mean something else. Also, check your grammar. Most people, no matter how judgmental, can be won over by a well-written profile. Smart is the new sexy. If English is not your native language, you can also state it there. If you want, you can ask someone to check your profile for you. Though sometimes, language doesn’t really matter. People would still opt for polite and nice rather than smart but rude. One more tip: If you want to look attractive, be nice.


These are only tips to help you succeed in the online dating world. However, there is no sure fire way to success. It will all boil down to preferences. If someone you like isn’t responsive, maybe he/she isn’t interested in you. Like you, he/she has a preference of what he/she likes. Accept that fact and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea of online dating.

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